Today, I want to dive into a topic that’s been a significant part of my life: my nervous system and how it’s shaped my experiences with anxiety. It’s a personal journey, but I hope it resonates with some of you out there.
The Weight of Anxiety
For years, I struggled with anxiety—an ever-present shadow that colored my thoughts and interactions. It wasn’t just the occasional flutter in my chest; it was a constant state of alertness, a feeling that I was perpetually on edge. I often found myself in social situations where my the world around me felt completely and utterly overwhelming as my thoughts raced and feelings of doom creeped in. It took me sometime to realize however that my nervous system was not only reacting to stress, but responding to my environment and the people around me.
Triggers and Responses
I’ve come to understand that certain people can trigger my nervous system response. It’s fascinating (and sometimes infuriating) how being around specific personalities can tap into my anxiety. For instance, individuals who are high energy, highly critical or confrontational can send me into fight-or-flight mode, making it hard to engage in the conversation. Conversely, being around calm, supportive people who make me feel safe, often has a soothing effect.
This realization has been a game-changer for me. I’m learning to identify my triggers and understand my body’s signals. When I notice that familiar rush of anxiety creeping in, I pause and ask myself why. What about this situation or person is causing this reaction? Awareness is the first step toward regulation.
Regulating the Nervous System
I’ve explored various techniques to help calm my nervous system when it feels overwhelmed. Here are a few strategies that have worked for me:
- Mindful Breathing: Focusing on my breath helps anchor me in the present moment. I practice deep, slow breaths, inhaling for a count of four, holding for four, and exhaling for six. This simple practice can shift my body’s stress response.
- Grounding Techniques/Mindfulness: When I feel my anxiety spike, I try to ground myself by connecting with my surroundings. I’ll focus on what I can see, hear, and touch, reminding myself that I’m in a safe space.
- Journaling: Writing down my thoughts and feelings has been incredibly therapeutic. Journaling allows me to process my emotions, gain clarity, and release any pent-up anxiety.
- Setting Boundaries: Understanding which people trigger my anxiety has empowered me to set healthier boundaries. I’ve learned to limit my exposure to those who negatively impact my well-being, and that’s been liberating.
- Self-Compassion: I remind myself that it’s okay to feel anxious and that my feelings are valid. Practicing self-compassion allows me to treat myself gently during tough moments rather than adding shame to the mix.
- Physical Activity: Engaging in regular exercise has been crucial for me. Whether it’s a brisk walk, yoga, or dancing in my living room, moving my body helps release pent-up energy and tension.
- Connecting with Nature: Spending time outdoors has a grounding effect on me. Nature has a way of calming my nerves and reminding me of the bigger picture.
Moving Forward
This journey with my nervous system is ongoing. I’m still learning, still growing, and still discovering what works best for me. While a certain level of anxiety may always be a part of my life, I’ve slowly reclaimed my power over it, so it no longer controls me.
If you’re navigating similar experiences, remember that it’s okay to prioritize your mental well-being. Listen to your body, recognize your triggers, and explore ways to regulate your nervous system. You’re not alone in this journey, and there are tools available to help you thrive.
Thanks for reading! I’d love to hear about your experiences and any strategies that have worked for you. Let’s support each other on this path to understanding and healing.
P.S. As always, myself and my team are here to help. If you need help to overcome your anxieties, please do not hesitate to contact us for a free 30 minute consultation. You can book online by hitting the green “Book Now” button at the top left of our website or contact us.
Take care! Be WELL!